Krazy Chaotic Last Week of May

Today was suppose to be the start of a krazy  week. However raining all day canceled our little man's first  ball game.. Now it's actually suppose to rain and storm all week, so Bub's  Thursday game may be canceled as well. Although the game may be canceled I will still be watching my best friend 22 month old twins. YES TWINS!!!!. It will be just fine. They LOVE aunt D.  Now rain or shine Rys activities will still go on for the fact they are inside. She has dance pictures tomorrow and praying to the good Lord above it doesn't rain while we get there because she may have a costume on already and if she doesn't that means we have to leave extra early. Same thing for Friday except it is for full dress/makeup rehersal.  Then Saturday is the Recital. Yep so hopefully I'll be able to finished my other blogs I mentioned in rewind and update.

Just A Heads Up

I have been working on an update post for the past couple of days. I should be finished tonight/early morning. This month in general is normally a hectic mom the but has been over the top chaos this year.

Since I am a  [Single]° mother of two technically. It's hard sometimes to just post everyday or have something up everyday.  However, I do start blog post that I avenue and come back too. This is simple to me because I am so busy, that I get side tracked and necessarily can't get it all done. So just so I don't forget to plat something usually nine chances out of ten I start the post. Also the past 4 days the kids and I have been sick. I found out Friday at the doctor I have asthmatic bronchitis and the medicines have made me sleepy.

° Single in this blog post doesn't mean that Ken and I broke up because Lord knows he isn't going anywhere. HAHA But considering we aren't married legally I am considered single. Although in our situation even though he is the best darn daddy to children that are not biologically his I will always technically be considered a SINGLE mother.

****Sorry it took a little longer with the Rewind & Update post.  I'm trying real hard to post daily. But as stated before it can't always happen like that..******

Let Me Rewind & Update

Its almost 10 PM on May 24th, 2014. May is normally a semi-busy month for our family.  Between end of the school activities (now both kids), Ryleigh's end of the year dance/recital prep, & this year decided to add more baggage to ourselves by putting Brayden in T-Ball. What the hey?! They are only kids once and as parents you have to aacradice to let your children enjoy their childhood. I know my parents did. Pretty sure most parents do. Yes, I know their are parents out there that could really careless they have kids but keep popping then out. (That's anotgwr blog in itself I've been working on.) But back to Busy May and Updating.

Let me rewind back to May 6th, 2014.

Was an extremely normal day. Got the kids off to school, came home start laundry and the dishwasher from the night before, sat down watched a bit of TV until Brayden got home from Pre-k. How much more normal can ya get?  Ken called a little after 11am like he always does. You could hear the pain in his voice. He said, "I am gonna take vacation for in the morning. Call and get me in to the doctor before noon. So hopefully I can come back to work. But if not let me know and I'll take a whole vacation day."  Needless to say he didn't return back to work until May 20th. Ken was have appendicitis attacks try getting all day Tuesday May 6th. He even went to an urgent care that....1. Denied him at first. (We were broke from paying bills that week.) But at first denied him because he didn't have his copay. Yes, been told that is law suit grounds because no health care is suppose to deny you.
2. He borrowed the $20 from a family friend. He WAS NOT actually seen by the doctor. The nurse poked around on him. Said the doctor will be in shortly. DOCTOR. Yes, I said doctor had his nurse come back in and say there is absolutely nothing we can do for you. Its probably your appendix. We don't have the CT machine to check go to the ER.
3.  Although at the moment it wasn't necessarily an emergency. He called his work and insurance company. Well he had to be referred by a primary doctor to have the test covered on insurance. Also if he would have went without being referred. It wouldn't have covered the CT Scan and he'd have to pay the $300 buck co-pay since he didn't go by ambulance.
4. He called the nurse he seen. She talked to the doctor. The doctor got on the phone and said. I quote, " I never seen you. My nurse did. Therefore I CAN NOT refer you. Yeah a bunch of bull hockey if you ask me.
So Ken came home. Waited all night in moderate pain (depended on the way he laid.) The next day went to his doctor appointment. And the doctor was really good. But he even stated he thought it was a pulled muscle because Ken sisnt show signs of distress until he pushed in the right spot. Then ken about came up of the table. So they referred him. As a mother of a hold that got out at 3 PM. He was ordered a CT scan at 2:15PM. We were also about 20 minutes from home.  I dropped him off and went and got our daughter. Came back got him and waited at my parents for almost 4 hours to hear back. Right as we were leaving....BAM. The call came in for him to head to the hospital to talk to the surgeon. We were hoping they have him set up to come in the morning. OH NO! (Nothing is ever that easy). He was a direct admit. Had his appendix taken out. Surgery started at 8PM at night. By time I waited for him to get out of surgery, spend a little time with him post-operation,  then leave to go to my moms to pick up the kids and My sister (who graciously offered to watch them so I could be with Ken), and finally drop my sister off at her house get two kids settled back down and ready for bed. It was already 2:30 am. Only to get up a few short hours later to get ready to go back up to the hospital and wait 5 hours for them to discharge him.

So, that was roughly TWOS day a little into the next day.
See how jam packed that day was. You can only imagine the following days.

May 8th-15th, 2014

Ken was excused off for a week. Which of course that was expected sue to having major surgery. May 6th-10th, Ken worked of course May 6th with overtime and then May 7th he worked a full 8 hours before leaving work to go to the doctor because the pain was severe. So they used up his vacation time for the following days. He went back to work Thursday like the excuse stated and they wouldn't let him work due to not having proper work release papers.
Finally May 15th,16th,&19th, he was finally able to catch his surgeons nurse over the phone via the receptionist to release him back to work. May 20th, finally Ken is off to work. He was happy to be able to go back to work to make money to support our family. I love him to the moon and back but I was so happy to see him head to work.  No more aggravate Diedra days.

But during his days off after healing pretty well and kind of fast. He was able to attend one of Brayden's T-BALL practices and help coach him.  Saturday the 16th he was able to lay our new carpet. I mean hey it's not everyday a contract building houses man offers you 1900 sq feet of FREE carpet. Yes, you read that right and I said Free Carpet! ��

May 21st,2014
Ken went back to work. Ryleigh had park play day. As well as my little sister Julie who was up from Mississippi was over visiting and I got a call to come her Ry. She was sick with a headache. Well knowing my daughter like I do. I assumed it was just exhaustion,heat and allergies. I was almost right. She missed school Thursday due to dosing off. Friday was determined to go her last day of school so she could see her friends and attend her award ceremony. (Working on post about her award, so ya have to come back in a few days to see what she won.) Any guesses?  Well took her to the urgent care right along with myself and Brayden.   The verdict is as followed. Brayden has a sinus infection. I have asthmatic bronchitis as well as an ear infection. Ryleigh on the other hand has a slight upper respiratory infection (she said she diagnosed that because she was a bit wheezy in her upper quadrant. Nothing had gotten in her lungs. Fluid behind her left ear along with an actual ear infection and a extremely severely bad nasty throat infection but wasn't strep.

Do ya see what I mean by chaos?

But I enjoy the chaos, because without it I wouldnt have my wonderful kids.

Stay tuned to the upcoming post about Aggravation Insurance Companies Are, Ryleigh Rewards, and possibly an update about this chaotic Memorial Weekend? ����

Co-Sleeping And The Struggles to Break

Have any of you ever co-sleeped with a child or believe in it?

I, myself, don't disagree with it. My children are mine and sometimes they just need your love. It is OK to co-sleep with your children but let me remind you. Nine chances out of ten it isn't very easy to break.  Although when I became a mother, my mother is the one who got up with my daughter at night. I was a new mom and should have dealt with it. However I struggled with postpartum depression really bad and was on medication. to the point I had post partum blues.   From the time my daughter was 3 months old she suffered with ear infections. By the time she was a year cold she had 12 and her last one last a month long.  At 9 months old my daughter started sleeping with me.  It was easier to prop her up on a pillow and us go to sleep. Her ears bothered her worse at night when she would lay down.  Needless to say 8 years later I still deal with it.  Up until she was 6 and half years old we lived with my parents and I had another baby. So sleeping with me was the only way to go. When we moved out. It was a bad struggle because she still had her bubby in bed with her. Finally the go getter was when we seperated the beds and she was on her own. She didn't like that. Now after almost a year of living back in the house she grew up in and almost 9 years old. I still have to lay down (well sit) beside her every night until she falls asleep. Some nights she's good sleeps all night but 9 out 10 chances I wake up to her beside me. Sometimes after being up and down with her. I finally give in and just put her in bed with me.

Now I'm not bashing co-sleeping as you can see I have done it. Being single and still living with my parents it was easy and we got accustomed to it because we only had two bedrooms. But when we moved out the struggle of breaking my daughter is hard. So before doing it weigh out the pros and cons.  Because they don't stay babies/toddlers forever.

Caffeine=Craziness!

Caffeine=Craziness

I have often wandered if caffeine can make you hallucinate.  According to Weird Facts picture on Facebook they showed that I've shared. It not only can make you hallucinate, but hear imaginary voices among sencing the present of dead people. 

That alone may be the reason my sister thinks I am a semi-medium. Not that I can actually talk to spirit/those that have died and crossed over. But there's been a few instances where I get extremely anxious and nervous. Such as at a cemetery. Two other examples would be where my beat friend had her car accident and was killed. Every time I pass by her spot of death, I get really anxious and overwhelmed. When my childhood friend Roo funeral session passed by, as soon as the Hurst got even with my car. U began to bite my lip, sweating palms, and overall anxious. But as soon as I'm past the spot Tiff was killed, it feels as if a weight has been lifted off my shoulder.  As soon as Roo's hurst passed I felt normal again.  Can you think of another medium that becomes anxious when spirit is around? ..........

That's right!!!!! Mrs. Teresa Caputo

But unlike Teresa I don't feel or sense or even hear them talking to me. I just get real anxious besides the time when my sister and I were four wheeling. We stop not even a quarter of a mile from Tiffany's wreckage area. I become almost panicky and anxious and to this day swore I heard a voice say I'm OK.

Now after all this time I'm learning I am not as cool as Mrs. Caputo but the amount of Mountain Dew and Sweet Tea I drink. That the caffeine is making feel as if I'm sencing dead people.

** If I was not so tired right now. I would crop that photo and upload it, but until tomorrow if I remember. I will share the picture of Weird Facts.

H1N1

Blogging was meant to be a process for me to share my chaotic single motherhood life with everyone.  I lack at it due to everyday life. I'm human, I get busy, & as well as tired.

However I wanted to share my feelings on last weeks scariest moment.   My son had been sick. Started running fever Thursday  morning. I knew he had a cough but wasn't expecting to hear the news we did. Most of you know my son recently turned 5.  Therefore he's still little and his immune system is still developing.  My son not only was running a 103.5 tempature, but was diagnosed with a double ear infection, strep throat, and H1N1 (swine flu). This flu in itself has killed grown adults.  But the scariest part was when our doctor said don't take your eyes off him. His body has been attacked with 3 different things and the medicine itself may not help. That night I prayed, I poured my heart out to God where he was the only one to hear me. I asked God. Please give this to me take it away from my son. I can fight this faster he can't. That night my son slept with me. I want to praise God because he woke up with no fever, no cough, and was eating. He was Brayden again. He was my non-fearing, ninja butt kicker Brayden. He was himself again. I felt great. But learned no prayer goes unanswered. That afternoon I started feeling yucky.  But I smiled. My son no longer felt bad.  I have always believed in God and Power of Prayer. But this event in my sons life reassured me God is always on my side.

Its been a week and a day since he's been sick. He is back to my Brayden. Laughing, playing ninja, kissing momma when I ask even when I don't. 

As of today, I didn't get the flu like he did. I just got stopped up and sneezing. Ryleigh had a few coughs here and there. Ken has gotten a stopped up nose and achy feeling. But the flu as of now has exited our house. Thank God. 

Although the flu has gone we did get hit by a snow storm the first day of march. Like we needed it. Boy has it been a messy load of crud. Its turning into slush. And having a front wheel drive car that sits low to the grown sucks too.

Day in the Life of Chaotic Chaos

Sorry I haven't posted in so long. The weather in Missouri has been extremely well Chaotic. However, I have had a few people comment or make sly remarks on how can a stay at home stay so busy. I'm going to give u a play by play.

6:30am: The alarm goes off. I get up and get going. Such as making sure the kids clothes are ready socks and shoes are laid out. Backpacks emptied and by the door.
7:00am: the kids get woke up if not already awake. Which usually getting them up and dressed can be a hassle. Who wants to get out of a nice cozy bed when its 20 degrees outside.
7:30-7:45 am: We are out the door.  The kids get dropped off and for roughly about 15 minutes I will ride around town until 8 so that I know kids are in school and haven't tried sneaking out. (I mainly do this because one day as I left I realized brayden had walked back outside and was trying to come after my car.) Call me paranoid but according to the news lately there is nut cases out there.

Usually from 8:00am-11:00 am: I run errands. Sometimes if my moms off I  go spend time with her and help her out. Somedays I do just relax. I usually if I'm home will at least get laundry going possibly a few loads done before brayden gets home. And dishes. Not so much lately because everyone has been sick.

11:00-2:30 pm: I cook brayden something to eat because he is such a picky eater that he hardly eats at school.  I will continue cleaning and stuff. But here lately we have been going threw clothes and toys. So the clothes that don't fit I've been putting away in totes after washing them.  I've been doing a lot of spring cleaning getting rid of things. I want my house in order before our one year mark. I know sounds sad but when your one person and the other half is always working. It gets over whelming.

2:30 p.m.: go wait for sissy to get out at 3.
3:00pm: on Mondays we head to dance and we are there until  5:30. On Wednesdays or Fridays as soon as 3 hits and Ry gets in the car we head to Cape for appointments.  Every other Thursdays is girl scouts. And coming this spring TBall will start.

As soon as we are home from appointments on them certain days. We start preparing for supper,baths, and bedtime routines. Usually Brayden is in bed by 745-830 and Ry no later than 9 but some nights allowed until 10 pm.

The weekends although school isn't in session my days start just as early. I also 9 chance out of 10 is the last one to bed. Some nights I can be in bed as early as 9 some nights as late as 2 in the morning and always back up at 6:30 am.