Thanksgiving Eve

I had to be at school today which wasn't to awfully bad. Guessing because we don't normally have a huge family Thanksgiving. Just my dad, sister, her boyfriend, my kids, my boyfriend, and of course me.  My mom goes with her cousin to TN for Christmas shopping.  However its the normal for our family.  Ken and I are planning to do a little Pre Blackfriday Shopping, hoping everything pans out and we are able to get the few major things on our list that we are wanting to get.  Such as Brayden wants the new Skylander Trap Team. We made the mistake last year and put Swamp force in lay away and guess what it was marked down right at about 40 dollars cheaper. They done the same thing for Trap Team. Im hoping to get them both a new bed set. You cant beat the whole set for 29 dollars.  Once we go and go shopping I will post what we got.

Also I would like to congratulate my friend Kara on her new addition. Me. Jerrod was born just about an hour or so ago.  Once She's able to update me I will post all his details. 

Now Im fixing to go to bed. Long day tomorrow. 

Hope everyone has a wanderful thanksgiving.

Go to Black Black Friday post to see what we bought.

Every Single Mother Of Boys!

Every single mother raising a boy should know the following 10 things. I'm sure there are more than ten but a while back I done this as an assignment.  Our teacher gave us a bonus assignment on raising boys because she was pregnant with her first baby and there was a stem in the apple. Just for fun and if all ten things about raising boys we got an easy 50 points.  Why not? Good grades get to warn another female the joys of raising boys.  I know she wasn't a single mom, hell she was sporting that huge rock on her finger. I knew she would have help teaching him how to be a man. Not every woman does because we are well face it we are woman. We have not got a functioning penis nor besides one thing knows how it works. Therefore, I have had five going on six years experience on raising a boy by myself. *Ken, whom is referred to as daddy or Ken Daddy is the man who has help raise my kids and have taught me how to raise a boy! Along with some help from my dad but face it he may be a man but poor guy raised two girls.

Although as woman the last thing to cross our mind when becoming a parent is all the work that goes into it especially if your doing it alone.  Raising boys you go into it blindsided. Here I present to you 10 things to look forward to when raising a boy.  (Don't be alarmed if some have you laughing hysterically!) 

10. Diaper Changing 101 

      •As woman we having nothing down there that sticks out away from our body. Prepare yourself until ya get use to changing a boy you will get pee'd on. Remember the pee pee goes downward in the diaper. Meaning that you will have to touch your sons junk with your finger to position it right.  If not if will veer off to one side and moments after you get that new diaper on and you lay him on your chest for night night bonding time. You will be right back up changing not only the babies clothing but yours as well. •Poop changing aka massive explosions.  Just like little girls exploding getting it into their hoot-n-nannies. When the boys explodes be prepared to lift the penis and ball sac. 

9. Boys are Pigs!!

Brace your self, that's right babies eat.  Every two to three hours, thats a breeze. Just wait especially if you had a girl first. Boys, eat way differently than girls. Matter of fact my son was not even a full month old and my doctor put him on cereal. Big NoNo right? Wrong, lack of sleep is a big NONO to a parent that has to sleep to function. Especially if the boy isn't your first child. Take a nap when they do is impossible when having to chase the toddler around who refuses to nap.  If the boy is all you have by all means sleep when he sleeps. Im no professional but wait at least a month to put a baby on cereal. You first timers fruit loops don't count. •only feed them rice starting out. As infants their body is learning how to process food. And the oatmeal is hard and heavier on their stomachs. In other words their bodies don't digest it as well. Also when introducing new food when it's time. Start one at a time to watch for allergies. 

8. Let's hope your not scared of getting dirty. 

  Let's face it, when it comes to boys you will be getting dirty. Whether it's from that pee pee not position right in the diaper (refer back to number 10) to them being toddler ages and mud is the first thing they learn outside to play with.  Don't be alarm when giving your boy a bath and what ya thought might have been where he pooped his britches. Nope just mud. Don't be alarmed to see dark funky looking stuff hanging out every nook and crannies especially belly buttons and ears. It's mid. 

7. Hope you like everything boyish!!! In conjunction with number 8, boys play with boy toys. Your house will be swamp with legos, men-men (spiderman, skylanders, power rangers, and can't forget the TMNT.), and every "manly"/"boyish" color known to man. (Unless ya have a little girl as well then you just have a whole freaking rainbow in your house.) Note: It is okay if your son plays with a babydoll. What are ya afraid of? Him being a good daddy in the future.  Train them early ladies.  My son plays house with his sister and her dolls "ally" and "Bella" and "jace", i promise dads out there who are scared they may turn gay. That's their decision when they are older that them playing babydoll  didn't do it.  PS: I'm sure mom has a picture some where of him in a cute bow, even make up. 

6. Potty Training....

 Back to number 10 referring to diapers. Yes, ladies there will come a time and date that ya will have to potty train your boy. Unless you have done this a million and one times. In my personal opinion boys are so hard to potty train.  Remember those of us that have a girl as well and them following us to the bathroom to watch us potty.  Guess what? Unlike woman boys stand to Pee.  Trying to teach a boy to sit on the toilet to pee on top of teaching him how to tuck it down, it becomes a disaster.  Before ya know he's done soiled your shirt again let alone the whole bathroom has been spritz in yellow pee. They are smart and know they are boys and boys stand up to pee. (Pooping is a whole other story in itself) NOTE: Teach 'em young to raise the toilet seat or ya might find yourself in a wet situation later.  As well as being a gentleman and putting it down when your done. 

5. Drama Kings 

Boys are just as dramatic as girls. If things don't go their way, brace yourself again, because for the next 45 minutes you will be listening to an all out dramatic fit.  Crying, screaming, face raging red, all out temper tantrum. Don't be alarmed if this happens at the grocery store with millions, it seems, of people watching. Don't worry we've all been there, no matter what gender, they all throw fits in public places. 

4.  What's fear when it comes to boys?

Boys have absolutely NO FEAR.  Not sure where it comes from but they do things differently than girls.  They will hide in some of the most awkward places, them places that even make you feel as if the boogey man is going to jump out.  They will jump from the top of the couch trying to attempt making it across the coffee table. They will fall countless of times outside. Jump off ladders off of bunk beds and swimming pools. Face it number 3 is a must. 

3. Have those insurance cards ready!!!

With having no fear comes a lot of bumps, bruises, scraps, and cuts. (Some cases broken bones).  Make sure ya have a great insurance plan because they will know you by first name in the ER.  (So far we've only made one ER trip to have a rock removed out of his lip and 8 stitches. This was at age 2 but guarantee we have been to the doctor office quite a bit.)

2. Football or Karate?

With raising a boy comes learning how to play very rough and draining sports.  Don't know how to throw a baseball, football, or shoot a hoop. Well guess what single mommies ya gotta learn to help them achieve their goals. Even if it isn't a goal they are trying to reach. I couldn't count on two hands and two feet how many times out of the blue my son has said, "Mommy, let's play ball!"

1. Raising a boy (any child at that) is a very Rewarding Feeling. 

Last but not least, as a single mommy raising a boy I was completely dumbfounded. I have learned that raising a boy in reality isn't hard just takes ya out of your comfort zone as a woman.  Remember theres a jerk out there that helped you conceive the boy and it isn't his fault "daddy" walked out.  In the end you will raise a man. One that seen you struggle doing this alone. So that one day when he has sex and gets a girl pregnant, leaving is the last thing on his mind.

That alone teaching my son to be a man is extremely rewarding to me.   The most rewarding of all is my five year little monkey is a 100% mommas boy.  

So don't let people fool ya when they say boys are a breeze to raise. In reality they had their husbands help raise them (i give those men props). But as a single mom teaching a boy to be a man one day is a struggle because your a woman. But remember use your past mishaps as a quide. No child is a mistake never regret the sperm donor. However use that as a guide to show him what not to do. Don't be scared to let another man in because they arent all the same and in my situation. Ken has been the best not only soon to be husband but both my kids will tell you he's a great daddy, he's their daddy. 

Also read, Raising a boy is a breeze they say, to see what my boy was up to. 

I Chose Cosmetology School

I know in a few recent post that I have mentioned going to cosmetology school but in one post I said please come back to find out. Well after writing that I relaized that I had already mentioned what type of school. Therefore let me enlightened you on my first two weeks of school. Which by the way has went by really fast.  I got to school five days a week, Tuesday-Saturday.  You read that right, I go to school on Saturdays.  Which really is all to bad considering we dont have to be at school until 9 am. 

Before going on about the past two weeks, I will explain how this school works.  On November 11th, was my first day, along with the starting of FS (Fundamental Skills of Cosmetology) class.  In FS you are learning the basics of cosmetology for the next six weeks.  After graduating so to speak from FS you then move on to Advance Class. This is where it gets interesting because instead of learn techniques and stuff on fake "doll" heads. (Sorry not sure how to spell maikins lol) We still do that in advance class on top of going out on the floor working with people. 

Since you have the basics of how this works let me tell you about my interesring two weeks.  

November 11th, 2014 was when we started. That day being orientation we done a bit of book work then started on practical (on hands work).  Tuesday basically repeat and homework. That Saturday we had a test. Basically that is how it has gone the past two weeks. Theory (bookwork), practical (on hands work), and homework and test. This is how it will gonin Fundamental Skills.  As for how it will go in adavance class. That will be a later post. 

Am I liking it so far?

 I have only been in class two weeks, so far yes I am loving it and hope to continue to love it once I am out on the floor considering it is something I have always wanted to do. Therefore, I Love it. 

Besides the Marcel Thermal curling Iron.  We were warned we'd burn ourselves and in two weeks, I have yet to burn myself. But have come pretty close to it landing on my boob. 

 

Stomach Bug and A Migraine: OMY!!!

The stomach bug talk for my children school has been floating around on facebook for a few weeks from concerned parents fair warning other parents to start lysoling. Well I must not have gotten the lysoling done fast enough. Yesterday we ended up getting to start an hour late. Why because our head instructor left the key at home which her home is 30-45 minutes away from our school. That was fine by me because that gave me a chance to go drop my redbox movies off and run to the dollar store and grab some headache medicine. I got back in time to sit in my car and study. Passed my test with a 90% with 5 point bonus making it a 95%. However while studying in my car I got sick lets just say I was thankful for a walmart bag.  Yep, threw up praying no one was watching. I felt a lot better. Needless to say after first break the headache came back full force and I had to leave early. I made it home [barely, I kept feeling as if I was trying to sleep and drive] to pull in my driveway to open my door and hit my yard. I came in my house, took my shoes off, changed pants and laid on the couch and slept for two hours. I woke up feeling woozy, but knew I had to get my kids. I made it to school long enough to text my beloved friend to bring the kids to me. Because yet again them Wal-mart bags were coming in handy. That's right threw up for the third tome. [nope and I'm not pregnant! Everyone takes nausea and throwing up as pregnant. Trust and believe I wish that was the case because I felt like mere dog crap.] After the incident at the achool waiting on the kids for a whole 5 minutes in which I was face planting a walmart bag, I went home and slept another 45 minutes. After that I felt better besides waking up at 1:30 to go pee and bam the 4th go around. So what I thought was a migraine was actually the stomach bug and migraine both.  It initially more than likely was the stomach bug that threw me into a migraine.  With all the throwing up I was just physcially weak and exhausted and even started running fever about 9 that night. At this time Brayden had the runs. Done it twice was fine, sent him to school today and needless to say he "sharted" himself. Poor baby. However, he hasnt done that since about 4:30 because he done a but in the car at dance. We were in the car like we do most of the time waiting on sissy. I mean come on thats a two hour wait on top of having to chase Brayden down the hallways making sure he doesn't sneak in the dance room. He's been know to make an appearance or two in the middle of Ry's dance routine because he tells me he is a big boy and is going to potty by himself. But we were in the car and he lets one rip after the countless of times of telling him, "Durning your time of the runs. What may seem to be an innocent fart. Ends up being a complete explosion in your pants!!!" Welp, that fart continued you have a lingering smell. So we had to make our eay thru the crowd of people in the lobby and the hallway full of people waiting dor dance to switch classes to make it to the bathroom. Praying on the way that he hadn't saturated no more than his undies and no one has smelled it. Because it reeked of something quite horrible. You know one of those smells that you smell and can taste it to. Yep my friends it was ridiculously bad.  

Come six o'clock Ryleigh was dismissed. Thanking God that Brayden had saturated his drawers anymore because that was his last pair on hand. We got home from dance and first things first, have daddy check those britches. Why not? Mommy had done it pretty much all day. After the initial check we then gave him some pepto. He ended up making it throughout the might with know "sh*t" stains. Hoping he made it thru that day at school because procrastination momma had no back up plan and we only have a certain amount of days during Fundamental Skills to miss. That morning I loaded him up with some pepto and he made it All day no accidents. 

So never over look your symptoms when dealing with migraines and throwing up. Especially if you have to drive because the migraine in itself can alter your vision. Throwing up is just a mess that is gonna have to be cleaned up. Sometimes coming with no warning. Not sure about y'all but I vlose my eyes while throwing up. Which can be dangerous when driving. 

I knew the stomach bug was coming because of it going around. The funny thing was the day before I got sick. I asked two girls in my class if they have had, did have, or have been exposed to the stimach bug yet. Because I had that nauseous feeling all day. 

Thankfuls 4& 5

Day 4: november 4th was reserved for my beat friend whitney. This girl and I have been thru absolutely everything.  She has stood by myside in some of my darkest hours. As I have for her. The joy of her is that our daughters are besties as well. 

November 4th is her birthday as well. 

November 5th was dedicated to my wonderful boyfriend where on this day we have shared 3 years together. He has been not only an excellent boyfriend but an exceptionally great extraordinary daddy. 

Thats a picture of him amd our niece Aliya. 

I made it to five and became extremely busy due to starting school. Before November is up I will write a whole blog on being Thankful. 

National Prematurity Day

Before heading to bed I wanted to take the time to acknowledge my premature baby. Today is premature day. My Ryleigh was premature in weight due to personal complications. She was two weeks early weighing in at a whooping 4lbs 15 oz.  When I tell my story of my delivery with Ryleigh and the fight I fought to get her here, I let everyone know that she is my miracle baby. 4 days of labor and arguing with my doctor that something was wrong, a mother knows and I was right. Her blood flow that was feeding her had been cut off for two weeks, it was keeping her alive but wasn't feeding her. On the 10th day of October 2005. I told the doctor something was wrong. This momma was right, Ry heart rate was unstable and dropping. I went from being told that I was being discharged with gas pains to having a baby in 25 minutes from when they realized her heart rate was 28. In Honor of Prematurity Day, I am happy to say I have a healthy, intelligent, and sassy 9 year old. 

I know I have a lot of Thankfuls to finish along with updating about my first week back at school.( come back to find out what I am going for.)

Although I have all that and more to blog aboiy. I had to take time out to honor my baby. 

Thanksgiving November Thankfuls

I'm pretty sure if your on Facebook that you have seen already the Thankful Post that go on all November. Some thinks its annoying others are glad to see someone be thankful instead of complaining.  I am going to try my hardest to blog my Thankfuls everyday in November.  Starting with Day 1-3:

Day 1:

God, I am thankful EVERYDAY for him. Many times in lige we question God, forgive us we ate human. But there has been many times that I have looked bavk and saif if God wasn't on my side I wouldn't know goe wr got thru certain situations. 

Day 2: 

My kids: they are who make me who I am. Granted they drive me absolutely bat crap crazy but life without them I would be completely lost. My daughter: little fiery red headed inyelligent little girl. She has a mouth that over loads her butt just about everyday. But she is who she is. My son:life would definitely be boring without him. He's my all american mommas boy. He keeps me on my toes with all his men-men (literally he has them scatteted everywhere) and cartoon loving, tire swinging, little boot wearing country boy. 

Day 3: my niece and nephew are thise that showed me love doesnt come from a man but from little children that don't judge you by first look and love you even when you arent perfect. 

Those are my thankfuls for the past 3 days. Will post more thankfuls tomorrow.